The period of Lent begins today and, whether you're religious or not, it's a time when many people choose to give up something for the duration - 6 weeks. Someone sent me a note that prompted me to write this article:
'I'm not religious at all but as of tomorrow I'm giving up:
Hope I can do it.'
My first thought was I wonder which will be the biggest challenge. Turned out it's going to be cake.
Whether it be prompted by Lent or not, for some people, the idea of giving up all of the above would be daunting. Others seem to take on such challenges with ease. We know because we've worked with many of them. So I thought it worth sharing some thoughts on what makes people successful with removing certain behaviours from their life, whatever time of year they decide to do so.
1. It helps to have an alternative or substitute for each of the items that you're trying to remove from your routine. Feeling as though you're missing out is a sure-fire way to send you running straight for whatever it is you're trying to avoid. For the example above, this person could snack on nuts instead of chocolate, drink herbal tea instead of coffee and they'll need to plan carefully what their lunch options are if they're trying to avoid bread. Salads will go so far but they'll also need some rice, pasta and potato options.
2. Be very clear about why you are making your chosen changes. Remind yourself regularly throughout the day of the good reasons for sticking with your choices. This is crucial. Without this context to change your behaviour, you'll quickly fall back into old routines.
3) Acknowledge your progress regularly and very quickly your chosen new behaviours will become as well practised and easy to follow as the habits you're replacing. Tick off each day you complete as you intended according to your new plan and after just a few days you'll never look back.
And one last thing. Those that succeed with lifestyle changes usually adopt the inner thoughts of, 'this is easy, I can do this, I want to make this work' rather than the thoughts which can limit success of others such as, 'this is so hard, I wish I hadn't started this, I'd kill for a coffee / chocolate bar / drink right now.'
Think seriously about what you want to changeand when the time is right, commit to it and never doubt your ability to succeed.